…At Med blogging and life in general.
From a former coworker’s very public blog (the purple is hers, the black is mine):
“…and just because I don’t have a fucking Penis I am being passed up for something I want, I need, and I fucking deserve.That’s the kind of company I work for. A company where it is believed that female’s should be at home, barefoot, pregnant, and baking cakes. I thought the country got past that along time ago. Guess what ass holes, I can vote, I can have a fucking job, I live my own life, and I am more of a man then any of those pricks will ever fucking be!”
First of all, if you’re getting this riled up over not getting a 24 hour shift, you need to find a new field to work in. Guess what? WE ALL GET PASSED OVER from time to time. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with having (or not having) a penis. For the most part it has to do with how you present yourself to your coworkers, your superiors, and your patients (not necessarily in that order).
“Fucking god damn it.
FUCK! FUCK! FUCK! FUCK!
Couldn’t even do it like a Real company would have. Coundn’t interview, or do it like it should have been done. No, it was given to the least qualified individual just because he happens to have a penis. Fuck that. [Once again, I actually know how a real company functions.]“
First of all, learn how to communicate without using the word “fuck” four times in a row.
With the handful of employees our employer has, I don’t think interviews were warranted. My last employer had ten times (possibly twenty times) the number of employees this service has and they didn’t do board reviews for 24 hour shifts. Considering the fact that they’re the largest EMS service in the state of Ohio, I’m pretty sure that they are a “real” company. Guess what, so is our employer.
“I still can’t believe, something I busted my ass for was given to someone else, and I had to find out the way that I did. They knew that **** (name removed by Epi) was leaving a long time ago. The position should have been filled before he was gone, and everyone should have been notified of the decision before word spread through the company.”
Honey, you’ve only been with the company for five months. It’s the only EMS job you’ve ever done, and it’s not a high volume company as far as runs go. Your experience, your seniority as you like to refer to it, means NOTHING. You believe you’ve busted your ass, but I don’t think you understand what that actually means. The person who got the spot, by the way, has considerably more experience than you do, even though he’s not been with the company long. And no, you didn’t train him either. Trust me.
That being said, I’m sorry that you are so upset.
“ALSO!!! I SHOULD HAVE NEVER BEEN LIED TO. NONE OF US SHOULD HAVE EVER BEEN LIED TO. I FUCKING CALLED IT A LONG ASS TIME AGO, IT WASN’T A MATTER OF WHO DESERVED IT, IT WASN’T A MATTER OF WHO THE BOSS PICKS, IT WAS A MATTER OF WHO WAS STUCK UP THE SUPERVISORS ASS, WHO GOT THE FAVORITISM POINTS, AND WHO HAD A FUCKING PENIS.“
First of all, and I hate to be the person to point this out to you, but you say you’ve “busted your ass” for the company. You’ve come in when asked. You’ve picked up shifts that were open. And the management took note.
Guess what. SO has he. So has the other employee who was passed over. They were doing exactly the same as you are, but with more experience under their belts.
So enough with the penis talk. Seriously, it’s getting old. This company has just as many women as men on 24 hour shifts. They have just as many women as men that work contingent. It wasn’t about having boobs or having a penis. It was about knowing your job.
He knows how to talk to patients. You don’t, and you’ve proven it. He knows how to function on emergency runs. You panic. He knows how to use the equipment, and you freak when a stair chair is involved.
It’s not your fault, you’re new, and we all go through a period where we’re uncomfortable with patients, and calling a report in, and dealing with equipment… We have ALL been there. You’re just not as far along as you thought you were. And there’s nothing wrong with that unless you don’t recognize it.
“I am not quite done yet. I just have to do laundry, and shit so I can look presentable for a job that doesn’t value it’s employees.” (Emphasis mine)
Well guess what. They canned your ass after they read this. I wonder why?
They did value you, by the way. But when you went out on the internet and blast your employer and coworkers, people notice. When you mention your employer by name and in the same breath speak negatively about local hospital ER’s (that was in a different post she put up, I could make your head spin with some of the stuff she’s written, PUBLICALLY) management gets extremely nervous.
When you accuse your employer of being sexist… Publically. Yeah, you get fired.
Make your blog posts private, honey. Or better yet, give up blogging until you know how to do it the right way.
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Epi’s rules for safe and responsible med blogging, coming tomorrow.
Oh my goodness.
Not very smart but you go girl! Tell it like it is!
Sad. How some people just don’t get that its about tact and not just how long you have worked there.
If you are looking for rules, include a bullshit disclaimer at the top of your blog telling everyone that your life is a work of ficton. Worked for me. JS
One word. Decaf!
Well guess what. They canned your ass after they read this. I wonder why?
HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAH!!!!
I… I… Just… But… Whoa.
Yikes. Somebody needs a Valium. :)
Epi, I love your blog because it shows that EMS is the same no matter where you do it. And, reinforced my belief that many of the people that we work with are idiots.
(I’d love to read this chicks OTHER blog posts.)
The difference between being proactive and reactive is also sometimes the difference between retaining your (horrible) job and losing it.
Sad.
I feel sad for that individual.
I often say unsavory things about my employer, but at least I’m mostly anonymous and use a psuedonym for myself and my hospital. I wouldn’t dare blog under my real name or using the real name of my employer…what a dumbass.
Epi,
In case your former coworker reads your blog…
1) For the most part, you’re dead on right. I do know that there are some remnants of sexism, but rarely in straight-up EMS. It remains an issue in some fire departments I’ve seen, and to some extent in nursing (the other way around). Even in those realms though, it’s a far cry from the rampant sexism the fc (former coworker, not Future Cardiologist) claims.
2) Yeah…publicly blogging against your employer and naming names…never a wise move. Maybe if you’re union you might keep your job the first time…maybe. Everyone else? Especially in this economy?
3) People who throw down the f-bomb repeatedly in a blog…well, they might not do it in person at work (much), but the “f-bomb attitude” is guaranteed to show. Frankly, despite the other good reasons she was passed up for a prime shift that you mentioned; here’s one that I would bet was obvious to the bosses. In the end, it wasn’t her lack of penis that cost her, it was the size of the chip on her shoulder.
Wise post as usual, Epi.
Most unfortunate use of a blog. If you choose to publicly excoriate your employer and identify both them and yourself, you should expect some form of reaction. As does Keep Breathing, I keep my identity at least semi obscure so that the entire world does not know who I am and who I am speaking about.
Wow, I have never read about anyone get so worked up over being passed for a 24 hours shift. A promotion, maybe? But a shift? If you’re that strapped for cash, its called getting a second/new job. Not that EMS pays well anywhere, but there are certainly companies all over that are constantly looking to fill shifts. I agree with bobball that you don’t tend to see as much of that sexism in straight up EMS, least not up north… Fire companies, hell yeah, but that’s never been anything new. Blowing up in a public blog about your current employer, is, as you put it, the ultimate epic failure. She deserves to get canned.
Gratuitous profanity is the linguistic crutch of the inarticulate motherfucker.
Almost five months later, our sexual harrassment complaint continues to soil our workplace, and three continue to do the work of four.
I learned my lesson over at that other blog…
I’ll keep my opinion to myself here.
I feel that AD hit the sumbich right on the head
Loving it!! As with all of your posts of course…
Wow! Just WOW!
Well, as someone who served as a FTO for 3 years I can tell you this … that person was not suited for a career in emergency services – at any level.
If I were the employer this person would probably not have made it off probation. There is a very apparent character flaw, coupled with an aggressive personality issue, that would have given pause to even hiring her.
No matter what issues the company is currently having (if any) there is no excuse for not maintaining the utmost in professionalism.
We all get frustrated, or angry, or upset about what’s going on in life at any given time. But it’s the way that we handle it that shows what we’re made of. This person (passed over because of no male genitalia) showed her true colors – apparently many times over.
The company and the remaining employees will survive much better without her.
Looks like her penis card got trumped…
what an idiot!
ROFL!!!